Yes! We had a similarly strange experience last week at one of our Calling
Parties. There were just six of us there - five of our very best dancers,
most of them callers, and one guy who simply could not process what we were
telling him. Each person would try to explain a move, but all that would
happen was more confusion. One dance had a hey in it, and after our usual
explanations had not worked, one caller said "Watch this!" and did a hey for
four just by walking straight across the set and back, letting the other
three people weave around him. When the new guy didn't understand that, we
did the PattyCake Polka and a simple couples mixer. He did okay with the
Pattycake Polka (He did swing dancing, and I think the footwork made him
more comfortable - THAT was like dancing!), and during the couples mixer
excitedly said "OHHHHhhh... You listen to the caller and he tells you what
to do!"
He didn't seem otherwise stupid or anything, but it was as if he couldn't
"get" what we were saying about dancing. He kept saying "I just don't
know
where to go." It seemed as if his whole brain was occupied with some other
thoughts so that nothing else could get through - like a denial of service
attack...
We've all been wondering ever since what we could have done, if anything,
short of turning the evening into a One Night Stand dance.
M
E
On Sat, Mar 19, 2011 at 9:42 PM, Robert Golder <robertgolder(a)comcast.net>wrote;wrote:
There's only one thing I can think of to try at
that point, and that's to
strike up a conversation at the break, ask the guy if he's enjoying the
evening, how he heard about the dance, etc., and if conversation indicates
he's not compromised in some obvious fashion, then ask him what's up. Had
something similar happen to me with a couple that would fit the description
you gave. It turned out that as a consequence of surgery he would have
occasional, unpredictable disorientation episodes. He really wanted to dance
but it may have brought on a spell; at any rate, though he seemed clueless,
he had instead been trying to fight the disorientation and continue dancing,
but he realized with disappointment after a few attempts that he couldn't
dance any more that evening. He was a good guy and I wish he could have
participated more fully.
On Mar 19, 2011, at 10:05 PM, Alan Winston - SSRL Central Computing wrote:
Callers:
(I should say, I'm used to dealing with clueless, drunk, not-listening
ONS
dancers, and I have a repertoire of
incredibly-accessible material. So
my
usual approach at ONS is only to worry about
people who are being
dangerous,
and not worry much about clueless, and to call
material where you can be
pretty
far off and it still works. Even
fairly-sophisticated contra-dance falls
into
that realm, because somebody will be along to
swing you, circle with you,
etc,
pretty soon. So this is maybe an
English-specific problem, but I'm
suspecting
not.)
I co-called the Palo Alto English last night with Lise Dyckman. (We
expected a
somewhat challenging night because many of the
strongest local dancers
are off
at Spring Fever weekend.) Got a decent turnout
(24+), about a third of
them
first-timers or quite new dancers.
One guy (50ish, not visibly impaired, seemed nice enough) showed up with
a
group about 10 minutes late. When it got to be
my turn to call, I gave
an
abridged version of the orientation session (up,
down, in, out, partner,
neighbor, dance with anybody). Naturally, he did the first two dances
in a
row with one of the women he'd come in with.
He was clueless and active
(don't
know what to do, must do something, do something
random); she was
clueless and
passive (don't know what to do, will wait
until somebody makes me do
something).
First, I commend the community of dancers who were there that night.
They
pretty soon got that couple separated; didn't
display visible impatience,
and
continued helpful and welcoming, without
grabbing, pulling, and pushing.
Good
work, everybody!
Here are things that didn't seem to help this guy in any visible way:
- continuing to call the dance when everybody else had it
- doing demos of things that we otherwise would not (eg, Trip to
Tunbridge)
- having dancers in his set beckon or point, as
appropriate
- strong partners who tried to lead him (by whatever means) where he
needed
to go
- pointing out other people in the line in the same role to copy from.
- second walkthroughs
I gave up following a problem couple up and down the set and calling to
just
them years ago; that almost never works and just
raises everybody's
anxiety
level. I don't think it would have helped
here.
We tweaked our program to the simpler end of the things we'd been
thinking
about, but didn't revert to the
one-night-stand/barn-dance level, since
that
wasn't what the vast majority of people there
had come for. [To be
honest, I
didn't even consider that - which I've
done when, eg, the whole
not-previously-dancing Revels children's chorus turned up unexpectedly at
a
country dance I was calling, expecting to dance -
but if I had
consciously
considered it, I would have discarded it for that
reason.]
I could see that he was never really managing to build a model of the
dance,
and that he was, if anything, a kinetic learner.
(Eg, in Portabella,
where if
you're a 1 the A1 is gent cast off with
partner behind and orbit through
2s
place and back to place, and B2 is 1s cross,
cast, and half-figure eight,
he
seemd to have some kind of memetic entrapment
where having crossed he'd
turn
back and follow his partner down the wrong side,
as though it were A1
again.)
I don't think he ever connected pieces of
music to pieces of dance. It
wasn't
"he's got it except for"; I
don't think he ever understood the basics of
any
dance well enough to be able to fix the parts
that weren't working.
He sat down at the last dance before the break and didn't dance again the
rest
of the evening.
Now, maybe he's just not cut out for this. (I think that if somebody
threw
me
into a football game in progress, and I just got
a brief description in
the
huddle of what I was supposed to do and I
didn't understand how timeouts
worked, etc, I'd look completely clueless and overwhelmed, and there are
ways
in which this is like that. It was more like a
football game than usual,
actually, because among the things he never understood was the difference
between going down the inside of the set and the outside of the set, so
there
were considerably more near-collisions than
usual. I'm not cut out for
football, but if I got a bunch of explanations, coaching, and questions
answered, I would at least look more like I knew what was going on. And
of
course he didn't get that.)
But maybe my bag of tricks isn't deep enough.
What do you to do reach somebody like this? When do you know to let it
go?
-- Alan
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