I also have many male dancers who don’t want to do ballroom-hold swings with other men.
 
I always recommend the Double Allemande Swing: 
https://youtu.be/Ue0yCtjjbGs?t=107
 
I have offered this hold to countless men and ladies on both sides of the Atlantic and it
always works easily and well.
 
BTW When relevant I use Men and Ladies – I think the words are much clearer than the
alternative gendered terms.  
 
            Happy dancing,
                   John                       
                                    
John Sweeney, Dancer, England   john(a)modernjive.com 01233 625 362 & 07802 940 574
http://www.contrafusion.co.uk for Dancing in Kent