2 Jan
2013
2 Jan
'13
2:37 p.m.
On Wed, Jan 02, 2013, JoLaine Jones-Pokorney wrote:
I'm reminded of the time I was asked to call a gender-free dance where
where they were using "bands and bares." I spent a tremendous amount of
time practicing calling bands and bares and getting dances I felt
comfortable calling that way. IN the introductory workshop, I was passing
out bandanas for the bands and one man was asking his friend what I meant
by the "bands." She said to him - "She means the mens part." I
thought
why did I just bother to learn bare and band when they're just thinking
women and men?
Because the people who feel uncomfortable with "ladies/gents" or
"men/women" will be happier. That's basically what it boils down to,
making this a more inclusive community. Of course, because we have a
heteronormative and cisgendered society, there will be plenty of people
uncomfortable when we're not using gendered terms, can't please everyone.
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