Greg wrote:
  I was hired to call a dance and noticed, when I
arrived, that there
 were only two other men in the room besides myself.  When I commented
 on this I was informed that the group who hired me was a local
 lesbian club.  They specifically asked that I not make any
 accommodations, even though many of them were new to contras.  I
 believe that they made a point of NOT informing me of their makeup
 specifically so that I would not try to dance around the gender specific terms. 
  It worked out very well.  All had a great time, and
this in spite of
 the fact that there were also two deaf dancers in the room as well. 
  Attitude is a key factor.  I understand a lot of
dances were called
 here in California at mining towns during the gold rush.  The men
 danced with each other and half of them played the part of ladies.  I
 don't think they ever asked for "gender neutral" terms.  A few shots
 of whisky probably helped as well. 
All the references I've read to the all-male dances at the mining camps:
 - don't mention contra dancing
 - do mention wearing armbands to distinguish roles
 - call out waltzes and polkas
so given that it seems to have been all-couple dancing and no called dancing,
there wasn't a lot of need for terminology.
(Incidentally, the gender-free couple dance is the only place where I feel
fully comfortable calling the roles "lead" and "follow" because
that's what
they are.)
-- Alan
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