Once again, I'm with Seth.
On Thu, Jun 12, 2025 at 4:23 PM Tepfer, Seth via Contra Callers <
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  First or second dance of the night.
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 On Jun 12, 2025, at 4:05 PM, Lisa Sieverts via Contra Callers <
 contracallers(a)lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:
 
 Great answers, thank you for replying so quickly.
 Is this a good first dance of the evening? Last dance? Somewhere in the
 middle?
 Let me know what you think.
 Lisa
 Nelson, NH
 Lisa Sieverts
 603-762-0235
 lisa(a)lisasieverts.com
 On 12 Jun 2025, at 15:50, Winston, Alan P. wrote:
 Hi, Lisa, et al.
 Karen Missavage (as was; she's Karen Dunnam now) posted on
 rec.folk-dancing in 1999.
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 Favors the Rose (aka The Fan Dance)
 Formation: Line of gents on one side of hall, line of ladies on the other.
 Your honored person (costume contest winner? the President? the host?) is
 placed at the top of the set in the middle, and presented with the favor.
 (Fake
 roses work well, and are more durable than a fan. This weekend we'll be
 using a
 plastic pumpkin.) Two people of the complimentary gender leave their line
 and
 stand on either side of the victi--I mean, the first whatever. S/he
 assesses
 the two others, makes a decision, and hands the favor to the first
 runner-up.
 The selected one and the selector dance down the set, and join their
 respective
 lines. The FRU steps to the center of the set, and the process is repeated
 for
 the other gender.
 The CW people go nuts over this. It's the only dance some of the younger &
 shyer ones will do. I usually tell them that under no circumstances may
 they
 toss the favor to the third person in line and then take the top four
 people,
 so this puts the idea in their heads. Sometimes there is pantomined
 pleading,
 down on one knee, sweeping hat gestures, outrageous flirting (fanning,
 ankle
 displays). A couple weeks ago a woman took a look at the guy on the left,
 then
 the one on the right. She tossed the flower up in the air and ran away from
 them down the set! Yours truly has been known to abscond with a handsome
 soldier, or the favor-holder.
 This can be a work-out for the band, but it's a nice break from calling and
 instructing and teaching. N.B. do not bring out three chairs for them to
 sit
 in. They get too comfy and it takes too long.
 --Karen M.
 in Ann Arbor
 Here's a video Karen posted in 2020:
 
https://pie.yt/?v=https://youtu.be/9LBLZejhpnU?si=X38-ALXBLts5p5yo&pies…
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 Here's what Neil Schein posted on this list in 2023:
 Favor of the Rose
 -Line up three chairs and get a rose (or whatever).
 -Form two lines of people, one on either side (any criteria, inequal is 💯
 fine).
 -Position the bride or groom in the middle chair and give them the rose.
 -Bring two people from one line and have them sit. Center person gives
 rose to one, dances up center with the other.
 -Remaining person moves to center chair. Repeat, alternating lines.
 To answer your question:
 There is no set tune, there is no timing, there is no phrasing. Have the
 band play something lively that won't wear them out becauses it might go on
 a long time - I'd thikn they could do a medley they'd use for a contra
 dance, or whatever they like. Crooked tunes are okay.
 I don't think this dance is really a dance in the sense you're thinking
 of. It's a game.
 (That is, there's hardly any figures and there's not necessarily any set
 timing, depending on the crowd.). It's more of an improv opportunity where
 the people at the head of the line try to get the one holding the token to
 choose them.
 If you want it to be strict timing and very active, you can get people
 doing the whole thing in 8 bars (seen in the video, I think.). If it's a
 playful crowd and they want to goof with "choose me!", etc, etc, phrasing
 goes completely to hell and you as caller may have to urge them to make a
 decision.
 I've only called it a couple of times, for CIvil War dances. And it turned
 out that the reenactors around here had no tradition of doing it and didn't
 want to do do drama or improv, so we got htings moving pretty fast. At 8
 bars a time,; you can do it a lot of times. If I were doing it now for a
 wedding / ONS etc - here in the SF Bay Area, where all our contras are
 "larks and robins" I would really consider the crowd if I were going to do
 it at all, and I'd strongly consider whether the business of lining up
 gender-presentations should really be a thing.
 -- Alan
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 Hi all,
 I’m doing a wedding anniversary dance in a week and I think The Fan Dance
 would be good. But I can’t remember the details of how it goes.
 I’m thinking of the dance where there are three chairs in a row and two
 lines of people. One person sits in the middle chair, and one from either
 line sits next to them. The middle person holds a fan or other chotke. The
 middle person chooses one person to give the fan to and then dances with
 the other person.
 But what’s the timing and what kind of music? I used to do this a lot when
 I lived in Idaho but haven’t called it in eons.
 Thank you!
 Lisa
 Nelson, NH
 Lisa Sieverts
 603-762-0235
 lisa(a)lisasieverts.com
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