17 Mar
2024
17 Mar
'24
3:27 p.m.
I’m kinda doubtful about how common reason 2 is, I think most of what might superficially
seem like insisting on conventional gender roles is actually (men's)
homophobia—dancing with a man might make me look like a…, or the man dancing with me might
be a…. (I specify men because I’ve never once lived and danced where women were exercised
about this—occasionally a preference for mixed-gender, but never a strong one). The guy
who assaulted me at NEFFA years ago because he came across me in the line dancing the
“wrong” role didn’t do so because I was rejecting conventional gender roles, he did it
because of homophobia.
Read Weaver
Jamaica Plain, MA
http://lcfd.org
On Mar 12, 2024, at 1:36 PM, Julian Blechner via
Contra Callers <contracallers(a)lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:
...
- So, when someone says they prefer to dance in non-genderfree dances, with a partner of
a different binary-presenting gender person, in trad roles, there's 2 possible,
non-exclusive reasons:
1. That their choice is about courtship, but "make exceptions" for people
you're not attracted to. Which, I guess is fine in and of itself, but I think people
with this preference often may not consider _just how many exceptions_ there are.
2. Their choice is more about embracing traditional gender roles. I'll get back to
this
...