11 Mar
2024
11 Mar
'24
2:58 p.m.
You should sign your name at the bottom! :)
In my group, we have so many beginners each month and so many
experienced people who have been dancing with us only since we
introduced the bird roles about 6 years ago, that there is no
discernible correlation any more between a given role and a given gender.
So it would be impossible in our community to recommend one role because
you will get to dance with more ppl of the opposite gender as a result.
Some very-long-time members of our community still ask at the door when
they need to choose a tag, which role is the "gents" or "ladies" role
because they are comfortable swinging on that side/standing on that
side, so we tell them quietly.
Personally, I love the non-gendered dancing. I feel that it has
actually increased my enjoyment of dancing with a same-gendered person
as myself. Prior to that, when there was an unspoken norm, it still
felt a bit "weird" to dance with a same-gendered person.
Now that we have so clearly changed the culture in our dances to "we all
come together to dance in a joyful community, regardless of age, gender,
level of experience or any other factor" it has really changed the
entire vibe. I find it much more comfortable, personally.
Now the big excitement is being paired up with someone who has mastered
the concept of giving weight :)
Kat K
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Monday, March 11, 2024 11:52 AM
John,
<Perhaps, “the roles were originally (completely and utterly) based on
gender”!
Ya think? :)
I had what I assume is a similar response when I read that, John.
Aside to John: In this entire, ongoing discussion, it seems to me that
there is an active conspiracy of pretense (along the lines of 'the
emperor's new clothes') that the elephant sitting squarely in the
middle of the room is actually a blueberry muffin.
Open and honest questions:
Am I the only living person who has a preference for dancing with the
opposite cisgender (realizing that any particular, such opposite,
cisgendered individual may, in fact, have a different preference)?
If the above is a reasonable question, what is wrong with saying "If
you have a preference to dance primarily with women, I recommend
dancing the left role. If you have a preference to dance with men, I'd
recommend dancing the right-side role; if you have no preference, it
doesn't matter"?
What is the surveyed percentage of dancers in your community who have
such a preference vs those who don't?
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