I (bearded, etc.) certainly go into ballroom position rather than a symmetrical position
when I'm dancing the lady's part, even when a male partner is aiming for
symmetrical position (if he's not too insistent about it). And I tend to resist the
violent dancing some men think they get to do when they partner with a man--partly because
I generally don't like it, but also because I don't want to be danced with
differently because I'm a guy.
--Read Weaver
Jamaica Plain, MA
http://lcfd.org
On Jan 4, 2013, at 5:56 PM, Maia McCormick wrote:
Another thought on flourishes, that relates to my first post on the topic
and some of the questions that have been going around: I realized writing
another post that I first started flourishing others, and that I pride
myself on my leading/flourishing ability to such a large extent, because
it's a way of compensating for my sex when it comes to leading. Part of me
feels that to be an impressive and good partner, I should have that little
extra bit of flash--in a sense, to prove that I have a reason for leading,
and a *right* to, instead of following like women ought. Of course, that's
only part of it, but I was really interested in this thought when it
occurred to me. Maybe equalizing gender roles would, to a small extent,
lessen their applicability (i.e., the degree of lead/follow dynamic) in the
first place? Has anyone else experienced or seen this sort of thought
pattern before?