18 May
2006
18 May
'06
4:46 p.m.
On May 18, 2006, at 5:11 PM, Troll / Wright wrote:
I'm not sure about not booking ahead when
there's an excess of men. I
definitely avoid dancing with women at the beginning of a dance
when that's
most obvious. But shouldn't I accept (if a man asks me)?
You may do whatever pleases you! I just notice that men who
are already dancing have an advantage over
men who are sitting out (because the dancing men have access to all
the women in the line), and I'd rather make a point of going to
the sidelines and including those men who didn't make it into the mix.
I once remember telling a beginner I'd just danced with that he had to
head for the middle of the crowd and make contact because
with the surplus of men there, he might go otherwise unnoticed.
I've also discovered great new partners by purposely going to
the sidelines on men-heavy nights. And, boy, is it nice to have
someone smile and be happy you asked him to dance!
I certainly don't feel I have to take care of everyone when I'm at a
dance, but a little inclusive energy goes a long way.
Once the genders balance out, then I do whatever pleases me; I might
book ahead or I might not.
Lisa