15 Feb
2014
15 Feb
'14
3:44 p.m.
[posting because I feel like geeking about communication styles rather
than because I care much about this particular thread]
On Sat, Feb 15, 2014, Greg McKenzie wrote:
I seldom call for such experienced groups. Consequently I use
structured calls more than most callers do to maintain the confidence
of newcomers. I should have been more clear in my post, and I should
have anticipated that some folks might take it personally. I'm sorry
about that. As a policy I try to avoid taking anything posted here
personally unless it has my name on it.
What people perceive as personal varies widely. Civility also varies
widely, and I for one often see calls for civility as another form of
the tone argument:
http://geekfeminism.wikia.com/wiki/Tone_argument
Following up your faux pas with a call for civility after you got
attacked for your mistake does very little to settle ruffled feathers.
(Speaking as someone who does more than my fair share of feather
ruffling -- I have a lot of experience.)
In fact, it's arguably a form of nonpology:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Non-apology_apology
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