Hi John et al - I am really glad to have this topic come up here, 
because we've been turning our attention to it recently in our Halifax 
group.
We had unthinkingly been telling people to lean back/rely on each other 
in the intro, to teach the concept of a strong connection (we would 
teach it using an allemande).  This was language that went back well 
over a decade to our previous caller, and we never questioned it.
But I did see a discussion on this listserv e on "giving weight" at some 
point in the last year, and realized that this "leaning back" was not an 
optimal way to describe it.
We do have a number of dancers in our group who still have "limp noodle" 
phenomenon, along with many new dancers each month, so we are trying to 
think - how can we better and more clearly teach this concept?
I reviewed and am going to try your "slight sit" method to see how it 
works for the group.
That said, I am not sure that that method on its own teaches giving 
weight - it teaches how not to pull too hard - but if I can do a slight 
sit without falling over on my own, then I could also do this same 
slight sit while having the lightest hand touch to someone else.  This 
would not meet my definition of "giving weight".
In trying to break down/analyze the feeling of giving weight with a 
friend of mine (let's start with something simple like a one-handed 
connection through an allemande), I decided that in actual fact, it 
means pulling on each other's hands.  Feel free to disagree with me, but 
after going into and out of the position like, 20 times in a row and 
each of us trying to describe what we were doing when it felt right, we 
both agreed we were both applying a light but constant "pulling 
pressure" on the other person, via the hand connection.
But - and this was key - we found that we were each pulling by a special 
"magic amount" that is hard to quantify.  If we don't pull at all - we 
get the limp noodle effect.   If we pull too hard, it feels like some 
sort of unpleasant arm-wrestle-ish thing.
So last dance, I did try teaching it this way - we had all dancers join 
hand with a partner, assume allemande position, and try the following 
sequence:
-  not pulling on each other at all,
- pulling super hard like they were doing an arm wrestle,
- and then finding that happy medium, magic amount of "pull".
It seemed to work!
Looking at your page on "connection" John, this seems to line up with 
the idea of "Go for equal and opposite tension, just enough to feel each 
other, but not enough to move the hands from mid-way between you."
I'm interested in hearing people's thoughts on my addition of the 
concept of "a little bit of pulling" or "tugging".  Because this idea
of 
"equal and opposite tension" is a little vague for the uninitiated. How 
do you create this tension, exactly? "Now create tension" is not a very 
specific instruction for how the body must act, in order to produce the 
desired effect.
Then me and my friend started analyzing more involved figures like swing 
and courtesy turn.
My analysis was that in these two-hands-connected figures, one hand 
provides a slight pushing force while the other provides a slight 
pulling force.
In the swing, (we swing with an elbow connection instead of a shoulder 
blade connection), the hands connected at the elbows pull in towards 
oneself a little.
at the same time, the hands in the ballroom hold push against each other 
a little.
In the courtesy turn, the two hands that are hooked behind the ravens' 
back provide a little pull towards each other (ie the fingers of each 
dancer pull in towards the dancer's own elbow), while the hands joined 
in front push off each other a little.
Thoughts on this way of seeing "giving weight" ?
:D
I'm just experimenting with it at the moment so I would love to have input.
Kat K in Halifax
  John Sweeney via Contra Callers 
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 Tuesday, January 16, 2024 2:47 PM
 Hi Joseph,
 “Giving weight” is a highly technical term stolen from other more 
 complex dance genres.  It is too easily misunderstood.  People 
 actually expect you to take some of their weight!  They lean; they 
 hang; they pull; etc.  Please don’t! :-)
 I absolutely do NOT want any of your weight! (I have enough of my own!).
 People use the term without explaining this.
 “Giving weight” means controlling your centre of gravity so that you 
 are connected to your partner.  It is much better to talk about 
 connection.  (See also 
 
http://contrafusion.co.uk/Contra.html#connection ).  (More about 
 weight in the Swing here: 
 
http://contrafusion.co.uk/Contra.html#swinging ).
 You can see a video of me demonstrating “giving weight” at 
 
https://youtu.be/Uvbp5HiCiBo?si=akxwoMu2fbUupsBm&t=137
 The exercise that I show there is one you can get dancers to try. Make 
 them do a slight sit by themself without falling over.  Then take two 
 hands with your partner and both do a slight sit.  Then let go.  I you 
 fall over you were pulling too hard!
 The continual yanking by people who are throwing their weight around 
 can cause injury, including repetitive strain injury if it is a 
 constant factor of their dancing.
 People use far too many muscles when they are dancing.  We had a new 
 dancer today and I was showing him how to do a Roll Away.  He started 
 pulling me hard with his connected hand and kept pulling strongly.  I 
 explained that his initial pull – just moving his hand gently a few 
 inches then relaxing – was enough.  Having initiated the Roll-Away the 
 other dancer will complete it by themself.  He tried that and saw how 
 easily we both completed the move without any effort.
 I hope that helps.
          Happy dancing,
 John
 John Sweeney, Dancer, England   john(a)modernjive.com 01233 625 362 & 
 07802 940 574
 
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 *From:*Joseph Erhard-Hudson <josephatthecoop(a)gmail.com>
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 *Subject:* Re: [Callers] Re: Workshop activities for helping dancers 
 improve their skills?
 John,
 Thanks for sharing your teaching notes with us.
 I’m intrigued by one paragraph in particular:
 /Connect and relax. Be responsible for your own weight! Don't "Give 
 weight"! Keep your arms firm but elastic./
 Since “give weight” has been customary parlance for maintaining firm 
 connection (at least that’s how I’ve always understood it) for so 
 long, I’m hoping you can say more about what you’re asking them to do, 
 or perhaps not to do. This is not to cast doubt on your notions, but 
 to help me understand the diversity of the ways callers conceive and 
 convey the hallmarks of good dancing technique.
 Joseph
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 Tuesday, January 16, 2024 2:11 PM
 John,
 Thanks for sharing your teaching notes with us.
 I’m intrigued by one paragraph in particular:
 /Connect and relax. Be responsible for your own weight! Don't "Give 
 weight"! Keep your arms firm but elastic./
 Since “give weight” has been customary parlance for maintaining firm 
 connection (at least that’s how I’ve always understood it) for so 
 long, I’m hoping you can say more about what you’re asking them to do, 
 or perhaps not to do. This is not to cast doubt on your notions, but 
 to help me understand the diversity of the ways callers conceive and 
 convey the hallmarks of good dancing technique.
 Joseph
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 Tuesday, January 16, 2024 1:25 PM
 Hi Emily,
 Two of the most important skills to teach are Swings and Allemandes. 
 They are very frequent and often danced very badly.
 You can see some of my teaching notes at 
 
http://contrafusion.co.uk/Dances/AlliesMan.html with links to my 
 Allemandes and Swings pages for more information.
          Happy dancing,
 John
 John Sweeney, Dancer, England   john(a)modernjive.com 01233 625 362 & 
 07802 940 574
 
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 Tuesday, January 16, 2024 11:49 AM
 Hi fellow contra callers :)
 I am wondering if any of you have little activities/exercises that you 
 use to help dancers improve their knowledge/skills of contra dance?
 I know there's lots of opinions on whether this is even necessary or 
 should be offered.  However, I have a few situations where I've got 
 dancers who are keen to improve their skills and I'd like to have 
 various fun ways of doing so.
 I'd love to hear your ideas!
 One activity I remember from mannnnny years ago in Ottawa was led by 
 Adina Gordon.  She had us form up in contra lines and then she would 
 say 1-2 (maybe 3?) figures.  We weren't to dance the figure... 
 instead, simply go to the spot where we would end up after the 
 figure(s).  I remember this as being a lot of fun and a great learning 
 experience.
 I also remember from that same session something about sending some 
 dancers out of the room and teaching the dance to others and then 
 doing the dance. (I don't remember the details.)
 Thoughts?
 Any advice/ideas would be greatly appreciated.
 Thanks!
 Emily in Ottawa ON
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