The other possibility is to give up your hang ups about gender-identified
names, and redefine them for your own purposes. It then breaks down to a
simple question, "Do you want to dance girl or boy?" (from my MWSD group)
or " I dance girl, would you like to dance?".
On Tue, Jan 1, 2013 at 5:20 PM, Joyce Miller <joyceling(a)sbcglobal.net>wrote;wrote:
  I could not agree more. Very well stated.
 Thanks Chrissy,
 Joyce Miller
 On Jan 1, 2013, at 2:52 PM, Chrissy Fowler <ktaadn_me(a)hotmail.com> wrote:
 
 I disagree re. lead and follow being the most accurate.  I don't think 
 of it
as residual baggage, but merely inaccuracy.  In my experience, there
 just isn't a leader and follower dynamic in contradancing.  Not the way
 that there is in other forms of partnered dance.  Or that there
 historically may have been in contra or its related genres.
 
 It does seem that some women dancers depend on leadership from the gent 
 role, and
some men dancers feel pressure to direct the non-gent role
 dancers.  But I don't think there's any lead/follow component inherent in
 the contra dance form.
 
 All my opinion,
 Chrissy Fowler
  
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