Re: [Callers] Moving past self-flagellation

Maia, I used to self-flagellate all the time when I had average gigs or made a lot of mistakes during the evening that I could have done better.  I know that sometimes it seems that dancers give you the evil eye after you've made a mistake or two, and it can feel uncomfortable.  I got some advice from an organizer that really noticed how I was taking my own self flagellation - I should go easy on myself.  Most dancers really appreciate what callers do (knowing that many of them just don't want to call because they'd rather be dancing), and probably understand that it's probably not easy to put yourself up there.  So now when I do make a mistake, notice the dancers aren't quite getting it or something occurs a little rough, I just take that as a learning experience and hope not to make that mistake the next time.  It's a mental exercise to be sure, but I'd recommend trying the same thing at a future dance, except consciously be aware of what happened last time and make efforts to correct that.  Once it works better a second time, you'll forget that you made a mistake at en earlier dance and chalk that up to a bad evening.  We all have them from time to time. Perry From: Maia McCormick via Callers <callers(a)lists.sharedweight.net> To: "callers(a)lists.sharedweight.net" <callers(a)lists.sharedweight.net> Sent: Monday, November 6, 2017 11:10 AM Subject: [Callers] Moving past self-flagellation So after a gig, I find myself haunted by one or two missteps from an evening — the rolling start that was a little muddy, the thing I didn’t teach clearly enough so the dancers never quite got it — even though the dancers adjusted and all had a good time, and I still had the hall’s trust and goodwill at the end of the evening. Is this a familiar experience for anyone? Assuming you’ve already learned the lesson to be learned there, how do you move past it and stop self-flagellating?Would love to hear some people’s thoughts! Cheers,Maia_______________________________________________ List Name:  Callers mailing list List Address:  Callers(a)lists.sharedweight.net Archives:  https://www.mail-archive.com/callers@lists.sharedweight.net/