Re: [Callers] Etiquette of refusing an offer to dance

Unfortunately, although the rule in question was well-intended, it did lead to folks sometimes getting cornered by those they didn't want to dance with, and they were then stuck sitting out. What I'm hearing from the responses is that this rule is still lingering in a vague, not-quite-stated-but-sort-of-assumed way in a lot of dancers' heads. The fact that it's persisting in some places but not others, or in certain dancer demographics but not others _within the same dance community_, means that we've got some conflicts brewing. One incident was mentioned already here by a dancer who was hurt to see someone who had refused her offer then dancing with someone else. The culture has shifted hugely, both in and out of the dance community, since this rule was initially stated. Might be time to address it head-on rather than letting it lump and bump its way out. Kalia