2 Jan
2013
2 Jan
'13
9:30 p.m.
(b) I don't like giving up control to someone
else. (In Maia's terms, I like being 'in control' and 'taking care
of' the other dancers.) I simply don't like ceding all agency, in general, and I
have never relied on the gent role to tell me where I am going when contradancing. I can
imagine it could be sweet to feel that someone else is taking care of you, but what if
they're taking you down the wrong path? Or what if they're forcibly making you do
something you just don't want to do? Or what if they have no clue? No thanks.
Perhaps part of the problem is that this is what people are hearing when they hear
"lead/follow." But a good lead-follow experience *is* a team sport, *is* about
give-and-take, communication, offers from both sides, and all the rest of it. Don't
let terrible dancing define dancing!
Louise.