You want to avoid letting him pair up with a new dancer, so you might indeed want to have
a confidential chat with the regular ladies who are also good leads, and see if they are
willing to take turns dancing with him.
Some techniques for his partners: Walk the swing and stop early to face in. Turn 1.5
allemandes into half allemandes or pull bys. Turn free moves into "with hands"
moves where possible. Ask your caller to suggest that everyone try a hey with hands if the
timing is tight. Or turn a hey for four into a hey for three, with you and he acting as a
unit. That works for half heys as well. Just cross the set together, dodging the other two
dancers. If he's hopelessly behind each time through, consider skipping B2 and set up
for the next repetition. Maybe concentrate on getting him comfortable with the first part
of the sequence.
Is he aware of his "rock in the stream of the dance" status? The answer to this
might affect how much adaptation he will accept.
Do keep in mind that it takes a certain amount of courage to try something new and
challenging, particularly as an individual rather than a couple.
And one or more of the organizers should chat with him at the break. It would be useful to
find out if he has a physical challenge. On Mar 6, 2017 3:13 PM, Marie-Michèle Fournier
via Callers <callers(a)lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:
>
> Hi everyone,
> Lately a new dancer has started coming to our dance and he is bad enough that he
will often make the set break if the dance is moderately challenging. He seems to have
some kind of impairment and walks very stiffly which means he will often not be on time
for a figure and also often does not remember what is coming next.
> We want to be inclusive but at the same time his presence negatively impacts other
dancers in his set and while some of the experienced dancers will take one for the team
and dance with him, it is an unpleasant experience to be his partner. Unfortunately, we
always have many new dancers and having one couple not be where they should be can really
throw them off in some dances so I feel like I have to push and pull him around to be on
time, despite the fact that it's a little rude.
> A recent caller to our dance called him a "speed bump" which was quite
accurate. I'm sure other dances have had experience with similar troubles, does anyone
have advice on how to deal with this so that other dancers still have a good time yet we
are nice to this problematic dancer?
> Thank you
> Marie
> ContraMontreal