7 May
2012
7 May
'12
11:30 a.m.
David wrote:
The old hands (old feet?) are more comfortable being
the center of
attention than would be the case if I asked all the newcomers to raise
their hands.
I never ask anyone to raise their hands. The regulars know.
The instruction that newcomers should find someone who has danced at least
one night contains a very strong implied message to the regulars. The
regulars are the ones who know who the newcomers are, and the message that
they have a specific role is strong and unmistakeable. To make that
message explicit is unnecessary and would carry the unfortunate implication
(to at least some) that the regulars are not inclined to partner with
first-timers and must be told explicitly to do so.
This is subtle stuff. We need to examine the hidden assumptions in our own
words. If the caller assumes the support and willingness of the regulars
to help integrate the hall the message becomes more effective because they
are enlisted as willing and enthusiastic hosts for the evening. I don't
want to give any impression that the regulars are reticent to follow my
lead. The implied lead is enough for a supportive dancer. Anything more
specific implies that some regulars are not so supportive.
People pick up on these implied messages. It is best to assume support.
Just another thought.
- Greg McKenzie