Import1 March 2018

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Re: [Callers] Temporarily Remove Name From Sharedweight Request

by JD Erskine

> at http://lists.sharedweight.net/listinfo.cgi/callers-sharedweight.net It's a Mailman listserver, so one may set a subscribed account to what we once knew as NOMAIL. A subscriber may log in and do it themselves. It's reasonably straightforward. Use the "change your subscription options" thingy at the foot of that page. Once logged in, use the first Value (on the grey background) titled "Mail delivery". Set to Disabled. Scroll down and Submit My Changes. Alternatively one may beg (on or probably better off-list) for an administrator or moderator to do so. Usually promising extended fealty, first or last born, or a pint, or something. At least great appreciation. I admin a number of these. Cheers, John -- J.D. Erskine Victoria, BC

6 years, 8 months

[Callers] Temporarily Remove Name From Sharedweight Request

by jsphdep＠aol.com

Hi Sharedweight, I would like to take a time out from Shareweight. Could you please remove my email address from the forum. My name is Joe De Paolo and my email is jsphdep(a)aol.com Thank you, Joe

6 years, 8 months

Re: [Callers] Politically Correct?

by Rich Sbardella

Folks, I began this discussion as a simple question with no intention of creating a debate on gender terms. I simply wanted to know if the lyrics ,in the context of a traditional song, were going to cause offense to any contra dancers. I think I had my answer early on. If we choose to continue this conversation let's do it with respect for each other, but I believe conversations like this are best held in face to face round tables. Emails make it hard to feel the emotion of the writer, and to see that writer as a person, who too, deserves much respect. Without pontificating, I do want to say, in my few short years in the contra community, ALL the callers I have met have treated the dancers, and each other, with great respect. We have a lot more in common than we have as differences. We must remember traditions within dance communities vary. Our way is just one way. Now, as a caller who often calls singing squares, I find that changing the words of a popular song, changes the way dancers respond to that square They expect certain words and changing them leaves many feeling cheated or disappointed. Try changing the song Marianne to say "All day, all night, my Caroline" and you will know what I mean. IMHO, it is better not to use a song than to change the tag line significantly. (In MWSD the tag line is the lyric that is sung during the 16 step promenades, and it is most often the most common, or repeated lyric in the song.) Thanks for all your thoughtful responses. Rich Stafford, CT On Wed, Mar 28, 2018 at 1:12 PM, Dorcas Hand via Callers < callers(a)lists.sharedweight.net> wrote: > Louise has hit the nail on the head: "I’d love everyone to dance for the > pure joy of it, but the idea that we can get “back” to that place, rather > than move forward to it, is a myth." Me too (yup), and there is no easy > path to get there. We must keep talking - just like in the broader world of > politics. Talking does/can get frustrating and circular, but it also opens > minds and keeps people thinking about how to be together better. > > Meanwhile, together let's forge a path - maybe of many sortof parallel > lanes - to move forward to dancing in joy. > Dorcas Hand > Houston > > -----Original Message----- > From: Callers <callers-bounces(a)lists.sharedweight.net> On Behalf Of > Louise Siddons via Callers > Sent: Wednesday, March 28, 2018 10:49 AM > To: callers(a)sharedweight.net > Subject: Re: [Callers] Politically Correct? > > I have a friend who danced for the pure joy of it until he got sick of > being asked why a black man wanted to contra dance. I dance with more, > purer joy now that fewer men “offer” to split me up from my girlfriend when > we join a line together. > > I’d love everyone to dance for the pure joy of it, but the idea that we > can get “back” to that place, rather than move forward to it, is a myth. > > Louise. > www.scissortail.org > > > On Mar 28, 2018, at 4:43 PM, Jeffrey Spero via Callers < > callers(a)lists.sharedweight.net> wrote: > > > > Can we just get back to dancing for the pure joy of it? > > > _______________________________________________ > List Name: Callers mailing list > List Address: Callers(a)lists.sharedweight.net > Archives: https://www.mail-archive.com/callers@lists.sharedweight.net/ > _______________________________________________ > List Name: Callers mailing list > List Address: Callers(a)lists.sharedweight.net > Archives: https://www.mail-archive.com/callers@lists.sharedweight.net/ >

6 years, 8 months

Re: [Callers] Politically Correct?

by Alan Winston

Not that the world at large was waiting for me to weigh in on this, but: I completely endorse Jen's point that "political correctness" is usually used as code for resenting having to treat people with respect. I completely endorse Louise's point that the past where everyone could dance for the pure joy of it is mythical and there has to be change to move forward to that place. [The operative word being "everyone"; the generally-positive experience that cis-het white guys like me had was different from "everyone".] As a caller I've called gents/ladies, bands/bares, larks/ravens, first diagonals/second diagonals (that's for Heather & Rose style gender-free English). I'm still going to nitpick some of Ron's rather-too-broad statements. On 3/28/18 9:47 AM, Ron Blechner via Callers wrote: > Hi Jeff, > > I think your understanding of there being "no to little movement" is > inaccurate. > > In New England, New York, Seattle, and the Bay Area, many callers have > been examining terminology and changing. Several dance series have > gone genderfree without being specifically chartered as LGBTQ dances. > Not coincidentally, these dances are thriving amidst a decline of > attendance of contra in general. > Contra dancing in the Bay Area is thriving in general, though some series struggle. I can think of multiple gents/ladies series that do okay, and I know at least one larks/ravens series that is struggling. I don't think it's the determining factor in success. > Many dances are also taking up safety policies before and after the > #metoo movement, despite plenty of resistance for years of some people > insisting that contra is a happy place where there's no harassment. > I am glad to have missed those arguments, but I have missed them. Were there really contradance people arguing that it would hurt to have a safety policy? (BACDS had a code of conduct for many years, and then went full bore into safety policy, but most of the discussion about that was about how to keep track of reports from multiple dance series to identify serial harassers without violating privacy, etc - that is, logistics. Honestly don't recall anybody objecting to doing it.) > So yes, you're correct that these discussions have been happening for > years, true, but they have also been producing tangible change in many > places. > > ... > > > I might also like to disagree with your implication that everyone is > responsible for "arguing about it". We callers who have swapped terms > for g*pay, for example, have long since moved on. > Well, you (Ron) may have. The callers who frequently lead BACDS English and Contra dances have been having an email discussion trying to standardize on a replacement term, since there is dancer pushback against having to deal with multiple terms for the same figure. (There's certainly also some dancer pushback against dropping a term they know, like, and don't perceive as derogatory, but they're going to have to get over it.) Anyway, we got about 40 group emails in and are stalled on trying to get a term that everybody can support, so right now everybody's still using what they individually prefer. I'm a "right shoulder round" person myself, but kinda like "gyre". I don't think I can call this "have long since moved on". -- Alan

6 years, 8 months

Re: [Callers] Politically Correct?

by Jeffrey Spero

He’s right… and she’s right. How can they both be right? Well… they ARE both right. There is no clear cut answer on this. People who feel strongly on one side or the other may like to think there is a clear cut answer, but if one thing seems clear to me by the amount of back and forth on this subject it’s that there are differing valid opinions. In the meantime, while we argue endlessly about whether to gypsy, walk-around, face-to-face, vis-a-vis, spiral, gyre, turn by the eyes, whimsy, kipsy, tipsy, shmipsy - or just avoid the move altogether, we lose why many came to contra dancing in the first place. Contradances were a place where people would come to actually get away from all of the controversies of life. It was a place where people from differing stripes with differing beliefs (OK, maybe I’m being idealistic here - let’s not kid ourselves, it’s mostly liberal whites!) can come together and leave the real world issues behind and just dance and be friendly. And now? These controversies have made their presence known on the dance floor. And it’s not just gypsies or no gypsies. It’s also questions of role identification (men/women, ladies/gents, larks/ravens, jets/rubies) and whether people should boycott dance weekends that gender balance. Please don’t misunderstand me… I have very little fight in this game. I’m moving to the point where I couldn’t care less about what we call moves or people. I’m just tired of the endless discussions that go nowhere except to continue to divide people and make the dance community cohesive. Maybe I’ve become an old fart who just wishes we could have the dance community we had decades ago that wasn’t so fraught with divisiveness. Or maybe there’s something to what I have written here. Maybe the decline in attendance at dances across the country has less to do with terminology - and more to do with people not wanting to be a part of yet another community that is becoming polarized. Do I have a solution? Nope. And neither does anyone else, or else it would have been solved by now. So maybe we should just cool it for awhile and see if maybe tolerance for personal preferences might help make the community less contentious. Can we just get back to dancing for the pure joy of it? My two cents.

6 years, 8 months

Re: [Callers] Politically Correct?

by Jeffrey Spero

> On Mar 28, 2018, at 8:56 AM, Maia McCormick <maia.mcc(a)gmail.com> wrote: > > While Jeffrey makes a compelling point, I want to chime in with another thought: that not having these discussions is just as divisive (if not more so) than having them, just in ways that are harder for some sides of the community to see. While people make (very valid) claims that long discussions about terminology, altering words to singing squares, etc. are alienating some more established members of the community, to not have these discussions is to alienate many other folks, particularly people our dance scene has done less well by in the past -- young people, people of color, queer people, trans people... the list goes on. I would never suggest that these discussion not take place. But at some point, the discussion must end with action either being taken - or not. This particular discussion has been going on for many years, with very little new information, with both sides feeling more polarized, and there being no to little movement in the community at large. We’re beating a dead horse. At what point does this become more divisive than cohesive? How is renewing this discussion by rehashing things that have been said over and over again on both sides of the issue being helpful more than harmful? Call it a walk around. Call it a gypsy. Call larks/ravens. Call gents/ladies. Call the moves as you see fit. But let’s stop the constant arguing about it that has become tiresome and divisive. Minds really aren’t being changed after years of rehashing the same points. And with that, I will no longer rehash MY point!

6 years, 8 months

Re: [Callers] Politically Correct?

by Maia McCormick

(Ah, to clarify, by "offered a dance to split them from their partner" I'm talking about the phenomenon that Louise mentioned, where a queer couple (or heck, even same-gender friends!) are offered dances by people to slot them into opposite-gender couples.) On Wed, Mar 28, 2018 at 11:56 AM, Maia McCormick <maia.mcc(a)gmail.com> wrote: > While Jeffrey makes a compelling point, I want to chime in with another > thought: *that not having these discussions is just as divisive (if not > more so) than having them*, just in ways that are harder for some sides > of the community to see. While people make (very valid) claims that long > discussions about terminology, altering words to singing squares, etc. are > alienating some more established members of the community, to *not* have > these discussions is to alienate many other folks, particularly people our > dance scene has done less well by in the past -- young people, people of > color, queer people, trans people... the list goes on. > > And if it doesn't look to you like these people are being alienated, that > might be because the alienation started so early that they just never came > back to another contra dance, after they heard the caller using language > that made them deeply uncomfortable, or were "offered" a dance to split > them from their partner, or looked out on the crowd and didn't see anyone > who looked like them. > > So yes, having these discussions may make some folks uncomfortable, and I > want to strive to minimize this discomfort; at the same time, many are made > deeply uncomfortable by the status quo, often it ways it's hard to see > (because often the response to this kind of discomfort is to leave the > community and not come back--so we have a pronounced sample bias). To > dismiss these conversations because they're divisive or uncomfortable is to > prioritize the unity and comfort of one group (the established contra > scene) over another (all those who might have been contradancers, were the > community more welcoming to them), and that doesn't sit right with me. > > Cheers, > Maia > > On Wed, Mar 28, 2018 at 11:43 AM, Jeffrey Spero via Callers < > callers(a)lists.sharedweight.net> wrote: > >> >> He’s right… and she’s right. How can they both be right? >> >> Well… they ARE both right. There is no clear cut answer on this. People >> who feel strongly on one side or the other may like to think there is a >> clear cut answer, but if one thing seems clear to me by the amount of back >> and forth on this subject it’s that there are differing valid opinions. >> >> In the meantime, while we argue endlessly about whether to gypsy, >> walk-around, face-to-face, vis-a-vis, spiral, gyre, turn by the eyes, >> whimsy, kipsy, tipsy, shmipsy - or just avoid the move altogether, we lose >> why many came to contra dancing in the first place. Contradances were a >> place where people would come to actually get away from all of the >> controversies of life. It was a place where people from differing stripes >> with differing beliefs (OK, maybe I’m being idealistic here - let’s not kid >> ourselves, it’s mostly liberal whites!) can come together and leave the >> real world issues behind and just dance and be friendly. And now? These >> controversies have made their presence known on the dance floor. And it’s >> not just gypsies or no gypsies. It’s also questions of role identification >> (men/women, ladies/gents, larks/ravens, jets/rubies) and whether people >> should boycott dance weekends that gender balance. >> >> Please don’t misunderstand me… I have very little fight in this game. >> I’m moving to the point where I couldn’t care less about what we call moves >> or people. I’m just tired of the endless discussions that go nowhere >> except to continue to divide people and make the dance community cohesive. >> Maybe I’ve become an old fart who just wishes we could have the dance >> community we had decades ago that wasn’t so fraught with divisiveness. Or >> maybe there’s something to what I have written here. Maybe the decline in >> attendance at dances across the country has less to do with terminology - >> and more to do with people not wanting to be a part of yet another >> community that is becoming polarized. Do I have a solution? Nope. And >> neither does anyone else, or else it would have been solved by now. So >> maybe we should just cool it for awhile and see if maybe tolerance for >> personal preferences might help make the community less contentious. Can we >> just get back to dancing for the pure joy of it? >> >> My two cents. >> _______________________________________________ >> List Name: Callers mailing list >> List Address: Callers(a)lists.sharedweight.net >> Archives: https://www.mail-archive.com/callers@lists.sharedweight.net/ >> > >

6 years, 8 months

Re: [Callers] Politically Correct?

by Louise Siddons

I agree wholeheartedly with Jen, and appreciate her thoughtful response. Donald makes the excellent point that history is the source of an ongoing challenge (it’s not the present, and the values of any one historical moment are not the same as those of another) for which language usefully offers a dynamic solution. I enjoy thinking about this aspect of dance history, and I enjoy sharing it with dancers (at appropriate times and in the appropriate quantity, of course). I see no reason not to enjoy this aspect of what we do just as much as we enjoy the vagaries of Sharp vs. Shaw siding, or wagon-wheel versus hands-across stars (which I assume we do, since I can initiate a lengthy conversation about these and other things with very little effort, among most dancers and callers I know!). Louise. www.scissortail.org > On Mar 28, 2018, at 3:58 PM, Donald Perley via Callers <callers(a)lists.sharedweight.net> wrote: > > When history shows a number of new terms introduced over the years, > and each, after a while, picks up the taint of being derogatory, you > eventually figure out that > the word itself isn't the real problem. > > <Snip> > On Wed, Mar 28, 2018 at 10:16 AM, Jen Morgan via Callers > <callers(a)lists.sharedweight.net> wrote: >> Hello folks >> >> I'd just like to second what Ron said. We keep hearing about how organisers >> would like to "get Young People in", but then express disdain for the things >> we care about, such as avoiding offensive language. > _______________________________________________ > List Name: Callers mailing list > List Address: Callers(a)lists.sharedweight.net > Archives: https://www.mail-archive.com/callers@lists.sharedweight.net/

6 years, 8 months

Re: [Callers] Politically Correct?

by Ryan Smith

While it's true that language is often not the problem, it's less relevant to the discussion of what words to use as a caller than you might think. Scenario A: If we have to keep finding new ways to describe square dancing because it's viewed as an activity only danced by weird old white people, then square dancing is the problem and changing the name isn't going to help. Scenario B: If the problem is that an activity like square dancing has borrowed terminology that has become dated over time, then it can avoid becoming scenario A by updating its terminology to match the moving target of society or in some cases it can discard that terminology in favor of something that is less likely to attract baggage. As regards the original question for this post, how we refer to people is going to be a moving target. If you want to avoid offending people, you should probably find a term that is considered respectful in the current era in which you are living. If you don't care about offending people, then the question is moot. As regards other terminology concerns, if you find that you have a dance term that refers to specific people or groups (gypsies, contras, etc.) you can, in fact, avoid the problem (possibly forever) by moving the term to something less likely to get wrapped up in the identities of groups or cultures. http://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-35349619 On Wed, Mar 28, 2018 at 10:58 AM, Donald Perley via Callers < callers(a)lists.sharedweight.net> wrote: > When history shows a number of new terms introduced over the years, > and each, after a while, picks up the taint of being derogatory, you > eventually figure out that > the word itself isn't the real problem. > > Using the tainted water analogy, if the person serving your water has > typhoid, asking for a new glass from the same waiter won't help much. > >

6 years, 8 months

Re: [Callers] Politically Correct?

by Donald Perley

When history shows a number of new terms introduced over the years, and each, after a while, picks up the taint of being derogatory, you eventually figure out that the word itself isn't the real problem. Using the tainted water analogy, if the person serving your water has typhoid, asking for a new glass from the same waiter won't help much. On Wed, Mar 28, 2018 at 10:16 AM, Jen Morgan via Callers <callers(a)lists.sharedweight.net> wrote: > Hello folks > > I'd just like to second what Ron said. We keep hearing about how organisers > would like to "get Young People in", but then express disdain for the things > we care about, such as avoiding offensive language.

6 years, 8 months

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