For a long time now, I have used Red on the Right and ye_LL_ow on the
Left as alternatives to gender-named roles. Even before the current
movement toward gender neutrality for adult dances, I found that using
gender-neutral roles was useful for youth dances because kids are still
developing their comfort level with the opposite gender, as well as
developing their own sexual identity, and various levels of maturity
bring in all kinds of unintended implications of being partners with
someone for a dance. The truth is, for most of the dances I call for
youth events, it doesn't matter who is on the right or left, so the
traditional "lady" and "gent" role is irrelevant. But even something
like "ladies (or girls) into the middle and back" and then "gents (or
boys) into the middle and back" can get laden with angst, so Reds and
Yellows are better names. (For Gallopede, instead of a girls' line and
boys' line, I identify the Red Team and Yellow Team). Boys are more
willing to dance with other boys when no one is labeled as the "girl"
and vice-versa. And then, if by some miracle, the group is really
advanced and I want to teach them a simple contra, where you really do
have to put the "lady" on the right, Red-on-the-Right has nice
alliteration, and the visual cue of the arm bands is very helpful.
Since organizers started asking for gender-neutral language for adult
dances, I have found that the Reds and Yellows are less confusing for
both beginners and experienced dancers than "leads and follows" or any
of the other labels that are currently being bandied about. The VISUAL
cue of the arm band helps dancers remember which is their role, since
the label is not anything anyone naturally identifies with. (Humans are
not actually Larks or Ravens, or Jets or Rubies, or whatever, so it's
one more step of mental processing to first remember which role is
yours, before you can respond to the call and do the next move. The
visual cue helps make this easier and faster). I know the issue of
gender language is a hot topic right now, and it's really a separate
discussion. I'm just saying that IF you choose or asked to use
gender-neutral language, I think the visual cue makes Reds and Yellows
better terms than other options.
Obviously, this is different from putting a red band on everyone to help
them distinguish their own left and right. I'm just saying,
gender-neutral language is useful for kids, for the reasons described
above.
I have found that rolls of plastic flagging tape (used for forestry and
construction) is cheap and makes good red and yellow ribbons. No
scissors needed -- you can just break off appropriate lengths as needed.
Diane Silver
Asheville, NC
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