Sounds like the “direct approach” of escorting him out has not been effective. Perhaps a
good next step is to find out who this person is connected to – if he has some mental
illness issues, is he under someone else’s care or guardianship?
If so, does that person (or group) know he is coming to the dances, and that he can be
disruptive? Is it possible he is being “dropped off at the dance” for what seems like an
opportunity for community and connection, without an awareness of the difficulty that has
If not, is there any way to find a relative or someone who cares about this person, and
discuss it with them? Possibly local social work agency? There must be someone who knows
and cares about this fellow, who might want to be aware of this?
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Behalf Of David Kirchner via Organizers
Sent: Tuesday, October 20, 2015 12:00 PM
To: Shared Weight Organizers
Subject: [Organizers] Problem with nondancing attender
We are struggling with the best approach to deal with a community member who attends many
of our dance events but does not dance (or pay). This person appears to have some mental
illness challenges. He frequently has a small child with him. He has occasionally been
disruptive in a minor way (or the child has been), and he has been escorted out a couple
of times for that reason. He often simply hangs out in the building while the dance is
going on, often in nondancing space. He is not easy to talk with. Reactions on how to deal
with this person have varied across the different dance communities that use our space and
different volunteers within those communities. We are trying to put together a common
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Is it possible that he's there for the child? Thinking this is fun for him and the
child? He stays on the outside - looking in? Knows he's different? How does he make
others feel uncomfortable? Is he engaging? No engaging? If he's on the periphery and
not engaging, why is he uncomfortable?
Help me understand.