7 Mar
2017
7 Mar
'17
11:22 p.m.
Indeed, someone who's resistant to being helped is certainly a problem.
Which means David' suggestion would be to ask him how he feels about that.
Ask him if he wants help or not.
And if he doesn't, maybe work up a few three-person alternative figures :P
Greg
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I am quite astonished -- actually, troubled -- that anyone would have the
insensitivity to refer to another dancer as a "speed bump." I am proud to
relate that I have yet to see any physically challenged dancer at the
several monthly contra dances in my area of southern New Hampshire be
anything less than totally accepted as part of our community. Whether
dancers have had difficulty because of a medical condition, the
after-effects of a car accident, or simply the problem of "two left feet,"
they have in every case that I am aware of been made to feel as comfortable
as possible. The adage I share with every new dancer I cross paths with is
that contra dancers are three things -- welcoming, helpful, and forgiving.
In New Hampshire that applies to everyone, and I have yet to encounter any
exceptions.
Paul Pindris
Deerfield, NH
On Mon, Mar 6, 2017 at 2:31 PM, Marie-Mich?le Fournier via Organizers <
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Hi everyone,
Lately a new dancer has started coming to our dance and he is bad
enough that he will often make the set break if the dance is moderately
challenging. He seems to have some kind of impairment and walks very
stiffly which means he will often not be on time for a figure and also
often does not remember what is coming next.
We want to be inclusive but at the same time his presence negatively
impacts other dancers in his set and while some of the experienced
dancers
will take one for the team and dance with him, it
is an unpleasant
experience to be his partner. Unfortunately, we always have many new
dancers and having one couple not be where they should be can really
throw
them off in some dances so I feel like I have to
push and pull him around
to be on time, despite the fact that it's a little rude.
A recent caller to our dance called him a "speed bump" which was quite
accurate. I'm sure other dances have had experience with similar
troubles,
does anyone have advice on how to deal with this
so that other dancers
still have a good time yet we are nice to this problematic dancer?
Thank you
Marie
ContraMontreal
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