5 May
2015
5 May
'15
9:20 p.m.
love the dating analogy, dave! it so describes the dynamic -- like you can't exactly
explain why, but you just don't want to go on that second date.
also "too true" re. your point on the reverse situation. (indeed, many a
performer has either ignored our entreaties or offered us gentle "vaguery"...
and we just move on.)
:)
more grist for the mill!
chrissy f
belfast me
Date: Tue, 5 May 2015 08:40:25 -0400
CC: organizers(a)lists.sharedweight.net
Subject: Re: [Organizers] Saying "no"
From: organizers(a)lists.sharedweight.net
I was the booker for a dance for a bunch of years and saying no was one of the more
challenging responsibilities that came with the role. It's hard because you are
basically evaluating someone's creative effort, something they are presumably quite
hopeful and invested in.
When turning down a band or caller, I say be gentle and somewhat easy in your reply.
It's like dating; the reasons one person may not want to go on a second date are
rarely "reasons" so much as impressions or intuitions.
The situation can be reversed as well--inquires to bands or callers to come play can go
unresponded to, or met with "be in touch after the new year" type vaguery that
eventually become clear they are trying to gently say no without being harsh, and frankly
I think that works.
To Don's point about burning bridges, I think you have a sense pretty quick if
there's a promising spark there, even if it is early in a band's career, and if
there is that spark, I say act on it.
Cheers,Dave
On Tuesday, May 5, 2015, Donald Perley via Organizers
<organizers(a)lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:
Of course, beware of burning bridges.. 10 years later they could be a
big draw name, or at least good enough, and the only one available
when your scheduled caller comes down with ebola.
On Tue, May 5, 2015 at 6:24 AM, Jeff Kaufman via Organizers
<organizers(a)lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:
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When you're handling booking for bands or callers,
there are generally some
proper you don't want to book. When the reason is
straightforward it's not
too hard to communicate ("you need to get more
experience; play some smaller
dances and get back to me" or "on even days
our series only books local
callers, ago the dates you suggested don't work,
but what about DATE?") but
sometimes the reason is "we don't think
you're very good, and you've been
doing enough dances that we don't think booking
you for ours will help you
improve"? I'd like to just say "no"
without getting into reasons, but
everything I write sounds either too short and curt or
overshary.
How do other bookers handle this?
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