Down here in Baltimore we are having a problem with a dancer who
seems to be harassing young ladies , He seems particularly fond of
monopolizing their dances if he can , then moves on to sending
e-mails and giving small gifts ... Shortly there after these
unfortunately targeted newcomers seem to stop coming to the dance ...
They do not complain to anyone in charge , they just disappear from
the dance community ..
It is a situation that I , as president of BFMS , only recently
became aware of , but in retrospect it seems to have been happening
to some extent since he moved down from the Boston area .
If this is a "new" behavior and he is amenable to change I will
either talk to him , or suggest the American dance chair has a few
words with him ... But if , as I now suspect , he was doing this same
behaviors in the Boston area perhaps firmer action might be needed .
There was , in fact , a discussion over on the callers list about a
dancer in the Boston area that seems eerily reminiscent of the
situation here ..
If any of the Boston area dance folks know of whom I speak , or if he
was banned from any dances up there it would be enormously helpful if
you could send me an e-mail with just the first name of the gent in
question ....
You can send it to my regular e-mail ( the one I am subscribed to
this list ) or to be at
President ( at )
bfms.org ...
A thousand thanks from me and from a lot of dancers who hopefully
will not have to find out first hand about which they should be
thankful ...
Rgds Quintin
Ps I have looked at all the contra dance "codes of conduct" I can
find and we are having a getting to get one set up here ....
Hopefully not shutting the gate after the horse ... etc..