Why do you only put this in the women’s room? Perhaps you live somewhere where it’s unusual for a woman to ask a man to dance, but you say your sign goes on to say to find a dancer you want to dance with. And while I don’t question that men are more likely to do things to make a female partner uncomfortable, the reverse isn’t unheard of. And even if that never happened, putting it in both restrooms would let the men know what to expect. Read Weaver Jamaica Plain, MA http://lcfd.org callers(a)lists.sharedweight.net> wrote: that, but I think I'll expand it to include a _kind_ refusal, and universal participation during the lesson. working hard to make the atmosphere of the dance welcoming and safe for all. We have signs in the restrooms about behavior. The one in the women's states that if one doesn't want to dance with someone, for any reason, it is best to be quick about it, saying, "No, thank you," so the ask-er has time to find a different partner. Skip the lengthy excuse, then find a partner you _want_ to dance with. who's sitting out to dance. Every once in a while I ask new folks to identify themselves, then ask experienced dancers to dance with them.