First LET me say thanks to all who posted in this thread. There are many useful tips here, some new and different things to look at, digest and try, some are repeats of advice received over the years and good reminders. I believe it was Lisa G. (or maybe it was David K. or both) who said get a trusted, strong dancer friend to talk about your evening. I find that having that person as a travelling companion helps relax me prior to calling as well as help in dissecting the evening after. This person does this in a non judgemental way and is supportive and encouraging while giving me a dancer's perspective. Recently I had a dance near the end of the evening that did not work too well and substituted a somewhat easier dance as the final dance of the evening, that dance failed in places as well. Aaarrrgggghhhh...the supportive comments of dancers, the band and the organizers certainly helped this very non-perfect perfectionist to leave feeling better about the end of a mostly wonderful evening. Getting home and finding an invitation to rebook was also a great balm for my self-flagellation. As an imperfect perfectionist, calling has helped me come to terms with that....that nothing is perfect, and it's ok to not be. Doing so with humor and shouldering the blame is certainly the way to go. Of all the things I've done (ask me for my whole resume) calling has been and continues to be the most humbling, uplifting, challenging and rewarding endeavor yet. Thank you all for your continued loving support. Mary Collins On Nov 7, 2017 10:28 AM, "Martha Wild via Callers" < callers(a)lists.sharedweight.net&gt; wrote: And about switching to another dance when there is trouble with one: Sometimes, this is necessary. Sometimes, you have misjudged the difficulty level of the dance for the dancers, or the dance doesn’t work as written down (oops). Hopefully you notice that before teaching or during, but things happen. However, one thing I have seen and felt as a dancer is that if a dance just needs one more walkthrough to orient people in the move that is messing them up, and then the dancers can do it (even if it starts rocky), they are so happy at the end that they met the challenge and did it. So if I feel that I can salvage the dance, I don’t toss it for an easier one, because the reward for the dancers is high. Martha On Nov 6, 2017, at 9:27 AM, Rich Sbardella via Callers < callers(a)lists.sharedweight.net&gt; wrote: I have learned that owning my mistakes publicly is an important part of moving forward. Sometimes I use humor to soften the blow. Another very important thing I have learned is to make the next dance a great dance. Something fun, with guaranteed success. Our mistakes bother us more that they bother most dancers. My belief is that we are hired to help the dancers have a good time. One or two little mistakes will not destroy our efforts, and even a major mistake need not be taken out of the context of an overall successful evening. (BTW, these are truths that I am still learning) Rich Sbardella Stafford, CT On Mon, Nov 6, 2017 at 11:10 AM, Maia McCormick via Callers < callers(a)listssharedweight.net &lt;callers(a)lists.sharedweight.net&gt;&gt; wrote: _______________________________________________ List Name: Callers mailing list List Address: Callers(a)lists.sharedweight.net Archives: https://www.mail-archive.com/callers@lists.sharedweight.net/ _______________________________________________ List Name: Callers mailing list List Address: Callers(a)lists.sharedweight.net Archives: https://www.mail-archive.com/callers@lists.sharedweight.net/