We have a dancer here in Buffalo that has a hard time hearing and ear-mind
process-motor response time is very very slow. (I worry about him
driving). We have a loose house rule that the regular good lady dancers
pair with this gentleman. Otherwise he will ask newbies to dance, and
often is at the end of the line, after the walk through. When you dance
with him you have to call to him through the dance and guide him to where
he needs to be. This is how we have dealt with our own issue.
In your case, you might want to invite him to your beginner's workshop
where you can address some of the issues you have seen him experience (i.e.
the 1/2 alemande instead of the 1 1/2 of the call, or a shorter swing.
Play up the better never than late thing and talk about flourishes and how
they are not really a necessary part of the dance experience.
the others have mentioned other ideas that are really good.
Good luck Marie!
Mary in Buffalo
“Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass ... it's about learning
to dance in the rain!” ~ Unknown
On Mon, Mar 6, 2017 at 3:13 PM, Marie-Michèle Fournier via Callers <
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> Hi everyone,
> Lately a new dancer has started coming to our dance and he is bad
> enough that he will often make the set break if the dance is moderately
> challenging. He seems to have some kind of impairment and walks very
> stiffly which means he will often not be on time for a figure and also
> often does not remember what is coming next.
> We want to be inclusive but at the same time his presence negatively
> impacts other dancers in his set and while some of the experienced dancers
> will take one for the team and dance with him, it is an unpleasant
> experience to be his partner. Unfortunately, we always have many new
> dancers and having one couple not be where they should be can really throw
> them off in some dances so I feel like I have to push and pull him around
> to be on time, despite the fact that it's a little rude.
> A recent caller to our dance called him a "speed bump" which was quite
> accurate. I'm sure other dances have had experience with similar troubles,
> does anyone have advice on how to deal with this so that other dancers
> still have a good time yet we are nice to this problematic dancer?
> Thank you
> Marie
> ContraMontreal
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A friend of mine with autistic kids shared something with me that she
learned from her kids' therapist: some people have a hard time taking
verbal direction for physical activity and do better by seeing a
demonstration.
So sometimes when I have a dancer on the floor who seems really confused, I
think about this idea. Your mileage may vary.
Anyway. Good luck.
Meg in Chicago
On Mon, Mar 6, 2017 at 4:58 PM Marie-Michèle Fournier via Callers <
callers(a)lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:
> Thanks April and everyone else, this is giving me a lot of ideas to think
> about.
> To answer your question, he does not seem to understand the "damage" he's
> sometimes leaving in his wake, he might not realize the importance of being
> on time to help the other dancers. If anyone has a gentle way to suggest to
> let him understand that it would be appreciated. But once we do that, I
> like the suggestion to include him in discussions about how to help and
> would like to do it.
>
> Unfortunately, this is a fairly small community with lots of new dancers
> every time, so I don't think we have 12 experienced female dancers, let
> alone 12 willing to dance with him and I'm not sure he's willing to dance
> with other men. I might not be the only one who is struggling to have
> empathy because I do not want to dance with him twice (he also smells
> really bad and doesn't always control the strength with which he grips my
> hand, although that might be getting better). Do you think it's better to
> concentrate our efforts at the beginning of the evening so new dancers can
> get used to contra, or at the end of the evening when dances are usually a
> little more complicated?
>
> Also, trying to articulate the problem a little better: he can swing
> reasonably, and I think circles and stars are ok if the music is not too
> fast. But I think that sometimes he does the wrong thing with confidence
> which throws people off if he doesn't have a firm, experienced partner to
> hold him back.
>
> Thanks all, I already have lots of material to think about, but keep it
> coming!
> Marie
> ContraMontreal
>
> On Mon, Mar 6, 2017 at 5:30 PM, April Blum via Callers <
> callers(a)lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:
>
> You want to avoid letting him pair up with a new dancer, so you might
> indeed want to have a confidential chat with the regular ladies who are
> also good leads, and see if they are willing to take turns dancing with him.
> Some techniques for his partners: Walk the swing and stop early to face
> in. Turn 1.5 allemandes into half allemandes or pull bys. Turn free moves
> into "with hands" moves where possible. Ask your caller to suggest that
> everyone try a hey with hands if the timing is tight. Or turn a hey for
> four into a hey for three, with you and he acting as a unit. That works for
> half heys as well. Just cross the set together, dodging the other two
> dancers. If he's hopelessly behind each time through, consider skipping B2
> and set up for the next repetition. Maybe concentrate on getting him
> comfortable with the first part of the sequence.
> Is he aware of his "rock in the stream of the dance" status? The answer to
> this might affect how much adaptation he will accept.
> Do keep in mind that it takes a certain amount of courage to try something
> new and challenging, particularly as an individual rather than a couple.
> And one or more of the organizers should chat with him at the break. It
> would be useful to find out if he has a physical challenge. On Mar 6, 2017
> 3:13 PM, Marie-Michèle Fournier via Callers <
> callers(a)lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:
> >
> > Hi everyone,
> > Lately a new dancer has started coming to our dance and he is bad
> enough that he will often make the set break if the dance is moderately
> challenging. He seems to have some kind of impairment and walks very
> stiffly which means he will often not be on time for a figure and also
> often does not remember what is coming next.
> > We want to be inclusive but at the same time his presence negatively
> impacts other dancers in his set and while some of the experienced dancers
> will take one for the team and dance with him, it is an unpleasant
> experience to be his partner. Unfortunately, we always have many new
> dancers and having one couple not be where they should be can really throw
> them off in some dances so I feel like I have to push and pull him around
> to be on time, despite the fact that it's a little rude.
> > A recent caller to our dance called him a "speed bump" which was
> quite accurate. I'm sure other dances have had experience with similar
> troubles, does anyone have advice on how to deal with this so that other
> dancers still have a good time yet we are nice to this problematic dancer?
> > Thank you
> > Marie
> > ContraMontreal
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You want to avoid letting him pair up with a new dancer, so you might indeed want to have a confidential chat with the regular ladies who are also good leads, and see if they are willing to take turns dancing with him.
Some techniques for his partners: Walk the swing and stop early to face in. Turn 1.5 allemandes into half allemandes or pull bys. Turn free moves into "with hands" moves where possible. Ask your caller to suggest that everyone try a hey with hands if the timing is tight. Or turn a hey for four into a hey for three, with you and he acting as a unit. That works for half heys as well. Just cross the set together, dodging the other two dancers. If he's hopelessly behind each time through, consider skipping B2 and set up for the next repetition. Maybe concentrate on getting him comfortable with the first part of the sequence.
Is he aware of his "rock in the stream of the dance" status? The answer to this might affect how much adaptation he will accept.
Do keep in mind that it takes a certain amount of courage to try something new and challenging, particularly as an individual rather than a couple.
And one or more of the organizers should chat with him at the break. It would be useful to find out if he has a physical challenge. On Mar 6, 2017 3:13 PM, Marie-Michèle Fournier via Callers <callers(a)lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:
>
> Hi everyone,
> Lately a new dancer has started coming to our dance and he is bad enough that he will often make the set break if the dance is moderately challenging. He seems to have some kind of impairment and walks very stiffly which means he will often not be on time for a figure and also often does not remember what is coming next.
> We want to be inclusive but at the same time his presence negatively impacts other dancers in his set and while some of the experienced dancers will take one for the team and dance with him, it is an unpleasant experience to be his partner. Unfortunately, we always have many new dancers and having one couple not be where they should be can really throw them off in some dances so I feel like I have to push and pull him around to be on time, despite the fact that it's a little rude.
> A recent caller to our dance called him a "speed bump" which was quite accurate. I'm sure other dances have had experience with similar troubles, does anyone have advice on how to deal with this so that other dancers still have a good time yet we are nice to this problematic dancer?
> Thank you
> Marie
> ContraMontreal
You might consider including the new dancer into your discussion. He "seems to have some kind of impairment and walks very stiffly", I think he might be the best one to tell you the things that he has difficulty with and then you can brainstorm how best to assist him. Having someone in the discussion who is good a modifying the dance would be great.
Certainly doing 1/2 instead of 1 1/2 for Allemandes, down the hall in small steps and turning sooner if possible, circling using that dancer as a "pivot point" so the other dancers circle around him, heys can be shortened or use hands to give leverage.
You might ask this dancer to sit out a few dances an evening citing his challenges and then coordinate with the caller for the evening planning those dances that include full stars progressing to full stars or other moves that require a full count piece.
My guess is that if he will work with you (and you want him to remain a member of the community) then brainstorming and giving tips from the mic will help the community adapt to include him.
Donna Hunt
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Hi everyone,
Lately a new dancer has started coming to our dance and he is bad enough that he will often make the set break if the dance is moderately challenging. He seems to have some kind of impairment and walks very stiffly which means he will often not be on time for a figure and also often does not remember what is coming next.
We want to be inclusive but at the same time his presence negatively impacts other dancers in his set and while some of the experienced dancers will take one for the team and dance with him, it is an unpleasant experience to be his partner. Unfortunately, we always have many new dancers and having one couple not be where they should be can really throw them off in some dances so I feel like I have to push and pull him around to be on time, despite the fact that it's a little rude.
A recent caller to our dance called him a "speed bump" which was quite accurate. I'm sure other dances have had experience with similar troubles, does anyone have advice on how to deal with this so that other dancers still have a good time yet we are nice to this problematic dancer?
Thank you
Marie
ContraMontreal
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On 3/6/2017 12:13 PM, Marie-Michèle Fournier via Callers wrote:
> Hi everyone,
> Lately a new dancer has started coming to our dance and he is bad
> enough that he will often make the set break if the dance is moderately
> challenging.
<snip>
> I'm sure other dances have had experience with similar
> troubles, does anyone have advice on how to deal with this so that other
> dancers still have a good time yet we are nice to this problematic dancer?
> Thank you
> Marie
> ContraMontreal
This is a really tough issue. A lot, for me, would depend on the
attitude of the dancer. Does he really love it? Does he engage in a
friendly and appropriate way with the rest of the group? Good attitude
and motivation can mitigate _some_ of the problems.
Are there dance communities with actual policy about dancers who are
problematic not because of behavior but because of skill level? I'd be
curious myself to hear how others have dealt with this.
There do seem to be some folks who the regular teaching just doesn't
reach, but every now and again those folks, through sheer persistence
and enthusiasm, can finally get it. Not everyone's learning curve is
the same.
If there's a particular move (or moves) that's consistently losing him,
perhaps a set of carefully chosen, diplomatic dance angels could do some
slow and thorough coaching, off the dance floor. The physical
difficulties sound like less of a barrier than the issues with
processing instruction, and it's possible that some well-crafted
individual attention could get him over the hump into being a more
functional member of your dance community.
Kalia Kliban (ever optimistic)
Yoyo,
I don't know if such a sequence already exists, but your point about the
awkward transition had me wondering about replacing your B2 with:
Balance the ring, pass through, turn alone.
Star left 3/4 (three quarters).
Jerome
On Monday, March 6, 2017, Yoyo Zhou via Callers <
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> Hi callers,
>
> I improvised this dance inspired by James Hutson's Treasure of the Sierra
> Madre last night, but it seems like it could have been written before. Does
> anyone have a title and author for it?
>
> NB. The B2->A1 transition has slightly awkward hands for the gents, but it
> seemed to go fine.
>
> A1: N balance, box the gnat; gents allemande left 1+1/2
> A2: full hey, pass P right
> B1: P balance, swing
> B2: circle left 3/4; balance ring, P CA twirl
>
> Thanks,
> Yoyo Zhou
>
>
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Hi everyone,
Lately a new dancer has started coming to our dance and he is bad enough
that he will often make the set break if the dance is moderately
challenging. He seems to have some kind of impairment and walks very
stiffly which means he will often not be on time for a figure and also
often does not remember what is coming next.
We want to be inclusive but at the same time his presence negatively
impacts other dancers in his set and while some of the experienced dancers
will take one for the team and dance with him, it is an unpleasant
experience to be his partner. Unfortunately, we always have many new
dancers and having one couple not be where they should be can really throw
them off in some dances so I feel like I have to push and pull him around
to be on time, despite the fact that it's a little rude.
A recent caller to our dance called him a "speed bump" which was quite
accurate. I'm sure other dances have had experience with similar troubles,
does anyone have advice on how to deal with this so that other dancers
still have a good time yet we are nice to this problematic dancer?
Thank you
Marie
ContraMontreal
Hi Seth,
I don't recall an exact match, but it's similar to Big Easy by Becky Hill:
A1 N B+S
A2 LLFB; Ladies alle R 1.5
B1 P B+S
B2 Cir L 3/4; Bal ring, pass thru
or CJ's Delight by Amy Kahn:
A1 N B+S
A2 LLFB; Ladies alle R 1.5
B1 P Gypsy+Sw
B2 Ps promenade CCW; Cal Twirl
and very close to Heritage Reel by Tony Parkes:
A1 N B+S
A2 LLFB; Gents alle L 1.5
B1 P B+S
B2 Half promenade; ladies chain
Hope this helps.
Thanx, Ric Goldman
letsdance(a)rgoldman.org
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A1: N B&Sw
A2: LLFB; Gents Allemande L 1.5
B1: P B&Sw
B2: P promenade across; Circle Left 3/4, N pull by
It seems so obvious that someone must have written it before.
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Seth Tepfer wrote: [Does this dance already exist?]
> A1: N B&Sw
> A2: LLFB; Gents Allemande L 1.5
> B1: P B&Sw
> B2: P promenade across; Circle Left 3/4, N pull by
> It seems so obvious that someone must have written it before.
It's similar to two of mine. I could have tweaked one or the other to produce the sequence above, but I decided I didn't want to give a name to every possible variation I could think of.
Heritage Reel (May 1988)
A.1: N B&Sw
A.2: LLF&B; M AL 1.5
B.1: P B&Sw
B.2: P prom across; W Ch
Solstice Special (June 1991)
A.1: N Dosi&Sw
A.2: LLF&B; M AL 1.5
B.1: P Gyp&Sw
B.2: P prom across; circle L 3/4, pass thru
Tony Parkes
Billerica, Mass.
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(to be published Spring 2017)
A1: N B&Sw
A2: LLFB; Gents Allemande L 1.5
B1: P B&Sw
B2: P promenade across; Circle Left 3/4, N pull by
It seems so obvious that someone must have written it before.
Seth Tepfer
Director of Administrative Computing
Oxford College
770-784-8487
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