When I run into a dreaded "clamper," I will in the case of a neighbor try to ignore the discomfort and enjoy the interaction. In the case of a partner, I will ask her, for me, to place her hand/arm as I described above. I make it a point that my request is about my own comfort, and other men may or may not experience the same discomfort.

*clampers: people who lock down on my arm, in the process typically restricting my right elbow, with their left arm. This is sometimes accompanied by a hand gripped tightly around my arm between my bicep and my shoulder. These things I find uncomfortable (and I presume others do as well).

I occasionally have someone who rests a lost of weight on my arm, in which case (if I choose to say anything), I again make it about me and my bodily limitations and comfort. I am currently strong and healthy, and can support a certain amount of weight and/or sloppy dancing, but I don't wish to encourage it.

--Jerome