15 Mar
2023
15 Mar
'23
2:45 a.m.
what does striving for gender free dancing without
being gender free mean?
A number of dances nearby are in this category, so I'll answer. The
organizers, or some of them, and/or callers would like the dance to be
gender-free, and maybe some of the dancers would, as well. The organizers
are concerned that at least a significant number of dancers will not like
it, and they may have some justifications for those concerns (e.g., many
dancers told them). They're nibbling at the edges, talking up the idea,
maybe having occasional gender-free dances, thinking of starting a
gender-free series as an alternative to the regular one or alternating
gendered and gender-free dances or leaving it to the caller to decide (one
caller called this throwing the caller under the bus!). They're not quite
ready to eliminate all gendered dances and declare it on their website, but
they're moving in that direction.
...Perhaps slowly. At least one group down here (Florida) tried
gender-free and went back to gendered. Orlando is still the only
gender-free in the state, as far as I know. Give them time...
--jh--
On Tue, Mar 14, 2023 at 11:35 AM Jeff Kaufman via Organizers <
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Hi Mary,
I'm still confused -- what does striving for gender free dancing without
being gender free mean? Is it that you use "gents" and "ladies"
but emphasize that anyone can dance any role?
Jeff
On Tue, Mar 14, 2023 at 7:51 AM Mary Collins via Organizers <
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Alexander- oops...while we are not specifically
gender free, we strive
for it in a very very conservative group of older dancers. I am scheduled
to meet with our web person soon and will adress verbage. Thanks for this
info.
On Mon, Mar 13, 2023, 4:34 PM Alexandra Deis-Lauby <adeislauby(a)gmail.com>
wrote:
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Mary,
Is the Buffalo dance gender free? The website tells callers to use
gents and ladies. If the dance is in fact gender free, then the website
needs updating. If you are advertising the dance as gender free but use
gents and ladies, that would certainly not encourage me to return if I were
a new dancer.
On Mar 13, 2023, at 3:54 PM, Mary Collins via Organizers <
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Watching this as we have the same issue. We are (I believe) the 2nd
largest city in NYS and have the most pitiful turnout.
I think you have some good ideas here.
One comment: we often or even always speak about our dance not only
gender free, no partner necessary to bring, but also as no lessons needed,
each dance being taught and "walked through". Then we advertise "the
lesson" b4 the dance. If words matter (and I think we agree they do) the
this is a huge contradiction.
I say to people these sets of words & phrasing: easy, walking to music,
Only 8 steps, no need to bring partner but a friend is fun, dances are
taught, practiced (stole from country line dance & swing) and then they are
prompted once the music starts. We offer basic move instruction rather than
lesson.
I don't really know if these changes help, hinder or have no effect. I
only know that not having a friend anchor for the first few dances would
have resulted in my not coming back. The lesson too. But that's just my
perception.
We give out "get in free" cards and encourage ppl to share theirs with a
friend. I also encourage people who say "I told my friends...", to next
dance offer to pick them up or meet b4 and come together.
We also encourage experienced dancers to partner with new dancers.
I am anxious to hear other's ideas.
Mary "from Buffalo", not.
On Mon, Mar 13, 2023, 12:49 PM Sandy Seiler via Organizers <
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Newbies are not returning my thoughts...
Why? not feeling welcome?, feeling intimidated/too hard? Coming late
to lesson and being lost/confused during dance? Lack of feeling of
mastery/learning? Need follow up lesson since we only dance 1x/month? One
month is a long time to wait for another lesson. Not enough younger
dancers like themselves?
Ideas:
1. Use beginner friendly buttons
2. Ask experienced dancers to dance with beginners for first 2 dances
at least. Board members lead by example.
3. Encourage experienced dancers to come for the beginner lesson to
welcome/socialize with new dancers.
4. Have caller or one of us give out free passes (pass for next dance)
at the lesson so we don't have to remember to do it at the table. We gave
out 15 free passes to new dancers in Feb and did not get any to return in
March. (March dance was on 2nd sat instead of our normal 3rd sat and it's
spring break. Feb attendance 61, March 38 (paid dancers, not including 3
listeners). Also there was a local magazine article about LBDA in February
and we had our most experienced and popular contra dance band (Kaw Creek)
playing.
5. Our Lesson is at 7:00, Dance 7:30. Should we use start time 7:00 in
advertising bc experienced dancers will figure it out and adjust to coming
at 7:30 more easily than new people knowing they need to come at 7:00 for
the lesson. New people attending and being on time for 7:00 lesson is
important for a smooth dance so do we need to advertise that way? Want
experienced dancers to be there to meet and socialize with them so they can
be better integrated into the community and not feel so awkward. I have
suggested this to our board before, but was told that would be manipulative
toward experienced dancers who would be upset that they came too early and
wasted their time. That feels like a very unwelcoming attitude, and I
would like to encourage all our dancers to consider that 7:00 is our start
time because beginners are important and we need to be there to greet them
and socialize.
6. Schedule a 1 hour lesson or series of lessons led by experienced
callers Lisa and or Jill and a couple new callers... before the dance? On
a different day? Through Parks and Rec this summer?
7. New dancers are far outnumbering experienced dancers. Need to do
advanced dance to pull back in some dancers who drifted away after the
pandemic. Contact individually by phone/email?
And then getting younger people to attend is a whole other but strongly
related topic we need to address more effectively. We are not getting
enough young people at dances. It appears to me that when a young person
comes they often decide to not return because there aren't enough people in
their age group.
Please tell me if you like/encourage these ideas I have come up with so
far and add others.
Especially I want to know how to get new people to come on time for the
lesson.
Is it ok to advertise dance for 7:00 even though first 30 minutes is
lesson? It's frustrating for our callers and then they don't get a full
lesson which is not good for anyone.
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