You should sign your name at the bottom! :)
Indeed! I forgot. :)
Thanks for the reply of the experience in your community, Kat.
I am, however, somewhat troubled by one statement you made, below:
So it would be impossible in our community to recommend one role because
 you will get to dance with more ppl of the opposite gender as a 
result.  Some very-long-time members of our community still ask at the 
door when they need to choose a tag, which role is the "gents" or 
"ladies" role because they are comfortable swinging on that 
side/standing on that side, SO WE TELL THEM QUIETLY [emphasis mine].
I'm not quite sure what to make of tiis except to see it as form of shaming that it needs to be mentioned "quietly".  
???
Ken Panton