You’re welcome to have your preferences! I don’t understand how giving folks of any gender the freedom to dance with whomever they want, on whichever side of the swing they want, prevents you from only asking (people you perceive to be) cos women to dance.
The goal of “encouraging everyone to partner with who they want to and dance on the side they want to” seems an unambiguous good to me! Or am I misunderstanding?
Cheers,
Maia
--Maia McCormick (she/her)
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The point is that if you announce it loudly, then you're making it gender free in name only. If larks is just code for gents, then people who want to dance a role that doesn't match their gender expression or identity (or who are non-binary for that matter) will be more uncomfortable than if the dance is truly gender free. You announce it quietly not because it's shameful to have a preference, but because it's shaming the people who don't match if you announce it loudly.
On Mon, 11 Mar 2024 10:52:25 -0400, K P via Contra Callers wrote:
> Am I the only living person who has a preference for dancing with the opposite cisgender (realizing that any
> particular, such opposite, cisgendered individual may, in fact, have a different preference)?
I wasn't going to get involved in all this, but I have to side with Ken Panton - I'm a man and I certainly prefer
dancing with women. And I very much enjoy dancing with Louise Siddons even though she may generally have a different
preference.
Colin Hume
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