And that's the problem right there. Demanding apologies or insisting people will change their mind if you just reword things slightly is how the very recent Facebook thread on gypsies piled up well over 100 messages per day. At least till the thread's originator presumably deleted the entire thread in exasperation.
Despite one's strongly held beliefs, there are others on the Internet who hold contrary beliefs, and you're not guaranteed to change their minds. Or any on-lookers, who after a certain point have abandoned the flame war's sinking ship.
Contra is a folk process anyways, with not everyone even agreeing on whether it's a "neighbor swing" or "corner swing" or "swing the one below."