<html><head><meta http-equiv="content-type" content="text/html; charset=utf-8"></head><body dir="auto">This is Cdny’s etiquette page. It addresses saying no but not in great detail in terms of historical practice. <div><br></div><div><a href="http://cdny.org/what-is-contra/contra-etiquette/">http://cdny.org/what-is-contra/contra-etiquette/</a><br><br><div id="AppleMailSignature">Sent from my iPhone</div><div><br>On Dec 16, 2017, at 2:39 PM, Kalia Kliban via Callers <<a href="mailto:callers@lists.sharedweight.net">callers@lists.sharedweight.net</a>> wrote:<br><br></div><blockquote type="cite"><div><span>Hi all,</span><br><span></span><br><span>Those of us who started dancing 2 or 3 decades back probably remember the rule about sitting out the dance if you turn down a partner offer. A very competent male dancer I know who started around the same time I did (late 80s) recently confessed to me that he never asks anyone to dance because he doesn't want to put folks in the position of thinking "If I don't dance with this guy then I have to sit one out. Oh crap, guess I'll have to dance with him." For the record, he's a totally solid and delightful dancer.</span><br><span></span><br><span>To what extent has that earlier etiquette norm either survived or been replaced, and what has it been replaced with? In your dance community, do you have a written statement of the etiquette around this? Our community's statement doesn't directly address this issue.</span><br><span></span><br><span>Kalia</span><br><span>_______________________________________________</span><br><span>List Name: Callers mailing list</span><br><span>List Address: <a href="mailto:Callers@lists.sharedweight.net">Callers@lists.sharedweight.net</a></span><br><span>Archives: <a href="https://www.mail-archive.com/callers@lists.sharedweight.net/">https://www.mail-archive.com/callers@lists.sharedweight.net/</a></span><br></div></blockquote></div></body></html>