<html><head></head><body><div style="color:#000; background-color:#fff; font-family:Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Arial, Lucida Grande, sans-serif;font-size:16px"><div id="yui_3_16_0_ym19_1_1509975910836_97430">Maia,</div><div id="yui_3_16_0_ym19_1_1509975910836_97594"><br></div><div dir="ltr">I used to self-flagellate all the time when I had average gigs or made a lot of mistakes during the evening that I could have done better. I know that sometimes it seems that dancers give you the evil eye after you've made a mistake or two, and it can feel uncomfortable. <br></div><div dir="ltr"><br></div><div dir="ltr">I got some advice from an organizer that really noticed how I was taking my own self flagellation - I should go easy on myself. Most dancers really appreciate what callers do (knowing that many of them just don't want to call because they'd rather be dancing), and probably understand that it's probably not easy to put yourself up there. <br></div><div dir="ltr"><br></div><div dir="ltr">So now when I do make a mistake, notice the dancers aren't quite getting it or something occurs a little rough, I just take that as a learning experience and hope not to make that mistake the next time. It's a mental exercise to be sure, but I'd recommend trying the same thing at a future dance, except consciously be aware of what happened last time and make efforts to correct that. Once it works better a second time, you'll forget that you made a mistake at en earlier dance and chalk that up to a bad evening. We all have them from time to time.</div><div dir="ltr"><br></div><div dir="ltr">Perry<br></div><div id="yui_3_16_0_ym19_1_1509975910836_97417"><span></span></div><div class="qtdSeparateBR" id="yui_3_16_0_ym19_1_1509975910836_97418"><br><br></div><div class="yahoo_quoted" id="yui_3_16_0_ym19_1_1509975910836_97599" style="display: block;"> <div style="font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Arial, Lucida Grande, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;" id="yui_3_16_0_ym19_1_1509975910836_97598"> <div style="font-family: HelveticaNeue, Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Arial, Lucida Grande, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;" id="yui_3_16_0_ym19_1_1509975910836_97597"> <div dir="ltr"> <font size="2" face="Arial"> <hr size="1"> <b><span style="font-weight:bold;">From:</span></b> Maia McCormick via Callers <callers@lists.sharedweight.net><br> <b><span style="font-weight: bold;">To:</span></b> "callers@lists.sharedweight.net" <callers@lists.sharedweight.net> <br> <b><span style="font-weight: bold;">Sent:</span></b> Monday, November 6, 2017 11:10 AM<br> <b><span style="font-weight: bold;">Subject:</span></b> [Callers] Moving past self-flagellation<br> </font> </div> <div class="y_msg_container" id="yui_3_16_0_ym19_1_1509975910836_97596"><br><div id="yiv7143203947"><span style="color:rgb(69,69,69);font-family:UICTFontTextStyleBody;font-size:17px;" id="yui_3_16_0_ym19_1_1509975910836_97595">So after a gig, I find myself haunted by one or two missteps from an evening — the rolling start that was a little muddy, the thing I didn’t teach clearly enough so the dancers never quite got it — even though the dancers adjusted and all had a good time, and I still had the hall’s trust and goodwill at the end of the evening.</span><div><span style="color:rgb(69,69,69);font-family:UICTFontTextStyleBody;font-size:17px;"><br></span></div><div><span style="color:rgb(69,69,69);font-family:UICTFontTextStyleBody;font-size:17px;">Is this a familiar experience for anyone? Assuming you’ve already learned the lesson to be learned there, how do you move past it and stop self-flagellating?</span><span style="color:rgb(69,69,69);font-family:UICTFontTextStyleBody;font-size:17px;">Would love to hear some people’s thoughts!</span></div><div><span style="color:rgb(69,69,69);font-family:UICTFontTextStyleBody;font-size:17px;"><br></span></div><div><span style="color:rgb(69,69,69);font-family:UICTFontTextStyleBody;font-size:17px;">Cheers,</span></div><div id="yui_3_16_0_ym19_1_1509975910836_97600"><span style="color:rgb(69,69,69);font-family:UICTFontTextStyleBody;font-size:17px;">Maia</span></div></div>_______________________________________________<br>List Name: Callers mailing list<br>List Address: <a ymailto="mailto:Callers@lists.sharedweight.net" href="mailto:Callers@lists.sharedweight.net">Callers@lists.sharedweight.net</a><br>Archives: <a href="https://www.mail-archive.com/callers@lists.sharedweight.net/" target="_blank">https://www.mail-archive.com/callers@lists.sharedweight.net/</a><br><br><br></div> </div> </div> </div></div></body></html>